Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Interesting Inheritance

It is interesting to see people as they grow from children into adults. My kids have been a blast to raise. I must admit that there have been times that I would've loved to choke the shit out of both of them. They do challenge me often, not in the authoritative sense, but in the thought process. If you don't have children of your own, or spend alot of time with or near others children, then you probably will not understand. This however, isn't what I would like to talk about today. I have some other observations that I would like to share, and discuss.
It is well known with my family and my friends that I do not like cheese, except for mozarella. That's also why I can't spell it! As far as I can remember, my distaste for cheese began at about 9 or 10 years old. It was an inherited distaste, as my father also does not like cheese. This inherited dislike is very understandable. It makes perfect sense. What doesn't make sense, is what is to follow.
I have 2 daughters, 1 biological, and one step daughter. My biological daughter is nearing 15, she has spent 14 years living with her mother, and has had very sporadic contact with me, not of any fault of my own. So, she did not know of my dislike of cheese as a child. What is strange, is that she has inherited my dislike for cheese. Exactly the same. There are other traits that she exhibits that are also inherited behaviors that she got from me. It was interesting to me that even though she had never known that I didn't like cheese, and she was exposed to it all of her childhood, that she picked it up.
My step-daughter on the other hand, should not have picked up these traits. She has however, picked up some of those, and a few strange ones, that I don't understand. My wife likes cheese, and therefore, there is cheese in the house, and occasionally she will make things with cheese in them, and make the rest of us something else. I say the rest of us because, my step daughter who is 9, also does not like cheese. I am half native american, which allows me to tan very well, and not burn often. My step daughter, having no indian heritage whatsoever, has the same uncanny tanning traits as I do. She shares my sense of humor, and my intelligence, as well as my temper. Some of the learned behaviors are understandable, knowing that she has been in my home and my heart since she was only 18 months old. However, her preferences with cheese, and her ability to tan as though she was my flesh and blood are a bit odd. Especially considering that I try very hard not to push my likes and dislikes of food, music, art, movies, and other stuff. I like to let them, and encourage them to try new things and to keep an open mind.
I just thought that this would be an interesting subject to discuss. The uncanny way in which my personal likes and dislikes, as well as abilities and disabilities have trancended to my kids, both with and without contact. This may have something to do with how twins have a strange sense of what is happining with the other, even when there is no indication that something is going on.
Huh... could be a scientific experiment here! Don't tell Dr. Mengala!

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Yet Gramma & Grampa White, and Gramma & Pappy Hubler all liked cheese!! Imagine that! LOL

I understand what you are saying though, because I went 16 years without knowing my Biological mother and I have found that we have some very interesting similarities. Just as I think like Dad about lots of thing I am a real mix of my Mom and our Dad. I think that perhaps I may have a little more of Grampa in my sometimes though because pops dislikes so much stuff that Grampa loved I have stuff that I can't come close to liking that both of them liked. Go figure, it's the old debate between Nature or Nurture. Genetics has a lot of influence, but you will surely be influenced by your environment too.